Monday, May 21, 2012

"Neither Give Place to the Devil" By; Rena Frayer

                                                              Ephesians 4:27

What does this title mean?  After research, we found it means-don't give the Devil an opening.  Wow, does that open a can of worms!

What have we done or said in our marriages to give Satan an opening?  I am so guilty of this in many areas.  Satan's desire is to destroy the family unit.  He will do this any way he can.  Try not to do things that would give him an opening.

We need to guard ourselves from certain things.  Things we do, see, or say(or even think).  What do we out in our minds with the things we read or watch on TV?  Are they wholesome or garbage?  My mom use to say, "garbage in-garbage out".  It's true.   What are we saying to each other.  Is it kind, mean, or hurtful?

Lets put on the Whole Armour of God, not just a few pieces.  It will help us against the Devil when he attacks-and he will attack!

"Neither Give Place to the Devil" By Pastor Matt Frayer

                                                         EPHESIANS 4:27

What does that mean, Neither give place to the Devil?  Men, I looked and looked to get a good answer.  I finally did.  It means, do not give him a opening.  How many times in your marriage have we let the Devil get the best of us.

We allow him to take advantage of our thoughts, words, attitudes, and our actions.  The Devil does not play fair.  He is a tempter, distracter, liar, and a deceiver.  When we have a bad attitude, we give the Devil a opening.  You give him an inch, and he will take a mile.  One little opening and he will try to destroy your marriage.

My wife and I are planning on taking jars and putting 50 pennies in each one.  Each and every bad or rotten thing we say to each other, we have to give them one of our pennies.  We are also doing this with the children.  I wonder who will end up with the most pennies.

We have to guard out tongues, control our attitudes, and watch our actions.  One wrong move, and the Devil sees an opening-once that happens we have a problem.

What I am trying to say is, Please Men, do not give him an opening.  Put on the Whole Armour of God, and men Put on that Shield of Faith.  Do not let the Devil destroy your marriage.
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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Quote for the day

"Marriage is not so much finding the right person as it is being the right person." Charles W. Shedd

Monday, May 14, 2012

"Right Words" by:Rena Frayer

James 3:8-10, vs 10"out of the same mouth proceeded blessing..."

As I think about the right words my mind goes to encouragement, positivity, and love.  Right words go a long way.  I love to hear right words from my husband. 

I have been on a weight loss journey, and I wouldn't have come as far as I have without my husbands right words.  My husband has given me words of encouragement, that keep me going and motivated.

Make sure that as you give right words, you also have action to follow.  Saying I love you means alot, but without action it means nothing.

Positivity goes a long way, even if its a little positivity.  When we wake up, say I love you.  When we leave, say I love you. When we go to bed, say I love you.  But make sure you show it by your actions.

God wants us to have a happy and healthy relationship with our spouses.  One way to start that is with right words.

"Right Words" by Pastor Matt Frayer

James 3:8-10, vs 10-"out of the mouth proceeded blessing..."

As I write this devotional, on Mother's Day, I have been careful to use the right words.  You may ask, what are the right words?  They are: I love you, I'm sorry, please forgive me, you look beautiful, or maybe I am here for you. 

Men, I know we are usually of few words.  We sometimes don't communicate well.  For the sake of your marriage, please try.  Remember, we are not perfect but we can say nice things.

Here is something I would like to share with you.  My wife had her third hernia repair surgery.  I thought I was going to loose her for a bit.  We decided to live a more healthy life style and set goals for weight loss.  She had reached her first weight loss goal, and I told her how proud I was of her.  I truly am!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I have tried to encourage her each and every day.

Men, we can use our words of comfort and encouragement.  We do not have to use words that hurt.  Try saying positive words or "the right words" this week and truly mean it.  I guarantee you will be on the right track for a healthy and happy marriage.

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Monday, May 7, 2012

Quote for the Day

"Try Praising you wife even if it does frighten her at first."

"IDLE WORDS" BY:Rena Frayer

Matthew 12:36, 37 "But I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, They shall give account thereof in the day of judgment. for by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned."

Idle- of no account, useless, vain, unprofitable and thoughtless.

How many of us have been on the receiving end of idle words, and how many of us have been on the giving end?  I don't like to be on either side.  Idle words have no use in our vocabulary.  Whether I am the giver or receiver of idle words, I feel horrible.  There is no use for thoughtless words at all.

I know that it is our human nature to lash back, when we are on the receiving end.  The Bible tells us in Proverbs 15:1, "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger".  It is hard to argue with yourself.  When we choose, and I use the word choose because it is a choice, not to lash back we honor God.  We are following His commands.

Homes that are loud and full of idle words are unhappy homes.  We need to have more useful, encouraging, and loving words.  What can we say to our husbands today that will uplift him?  What will make him feel loved?  Lets put idle words from our lips.  Lets honor God today and everyday.

If you have used idle words, confess them before God and MOVE ON.  Leave the past behind.  Today is a new day.

Tip-write him a love letter

"IDLE WORDS" BY; Pastor Matt Frayer

Matthew 12:36, 37 "But I say unto you, that every idle words that men shall speak, They shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.  for by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned."

First off, what does the word IDLE mean: of no account, useless, vain, unprofitable and thoughtless.  Men, how many times have you said to your wife things that were useless; words that we soon regret as soon as they are spoken?  I lost track along time ago on how many words I said that were unprofitable to her.

I would like to tell you about a word that we should take out of our vocabulary, and that word is DIVORCE.  We are so quick to lash back and say that word.  Lets face it, society has made it so simple for us to get one.  Just look in your local paper, its right there.

I have been in your shoes, and have said it.  But that is one word I had to eliminate from my vocabulary.  Words are either going to make or break a marriage.  Often the only difference between a happy or troubled home are the words that are said.

If you have said idle words, the Lord wants you to confess them and ask for forgiveness.  We must all stand before the Judgment Seat of Christ.  Let our words be JUSTIFIED and not CONDEMNING.  In closing, pleasant words will produce a sweet and healthy home.

Friday, May 4, 2012

Tuesday, May 1, 2012